Boundaries are crucial for living a healthy, balanced life. They are imaginary lines that separate me from you and are personal limits for what is acceptable.
They can be categorised in three ways: physical (who can touch us), mental (freedom of thought and opinion), and emotional (manage our own emotions and distance ourselves from emotions of others) and can also include practical elements such as time and finances.
Boundaries are a form of self-care and offer self-protection, but they also come in handy for creating realistic expectations by letting people know how to interact with us in a consistent way.
A lack of boundaries is particularly evident in people pleasers who typically struggle to say no, take on more than what’s reasonable, and put other people’s needs ahead of their own.
Set boundaries by:
- Define your desired boundary
- Communicate your boundary
- Keep your communication simple
- Say why this boundary is important
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