Setting boundaries is important. Boundaries let other people know what to expect from us, what we find acceptable, how we want the relationship to work.
But who is responsible for keeping the boundaries?
Us.
Example:
I could set a boundary that I won’t use my phone after 7pm. But a family member keeps phoning me at 7.30pm. I keep answering the phone and I feel annoyed and frustrated that the person isn’t respecting my boundary 😤
Actually, it’s me that’s not respecting the boundary. If I don’t want to use my phone after 7pm then I need to put my phone away, on silent, aeroplane mode, or off, or simply not answer the call. I can remind the person that the reason I didn’t answer the call is because of my boundary not to use my phone after 7pm. This allows me to feel calm and confident and maintain a positive relationship ✅
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